My son's bedwetting at 15 was presumed to be trauma: we needed a fuller answer
Updated: Oct 11
When my autistic son was still wetting the bed at 15, it was presumed to be linked to trauma. Our family had experienced domestic violence, so I understood why that history mattered. But I understood a hormonal factor to be involved too. A doctor declined tablets, and I wanted a fuller explanation of the assessment and the options.
I am sharing our experience without his name or identifying details. Bedwetting at 15 can carry embarrassment and exhaustion. My priority was his dignity, comfort and health, not finding someone to blame.
Why one explanation did not feel enough
Bedwetting can have several possible contributors. The NHS bedwetting advice lists night-time urine production, stress, constipation and other health conditions among them. An NHS hospital guide explains that the hormone vasopressin normally helps reduce urine production overnight, and that lower night-time levels can be one factor.
That information helped me put words to my concern. It does not establish a cause for another child, and a blog cannot replace an individual clinical assessment. The trauma explanation alone did not answer the questions I had about my son.
The question about tablets
At 15, a doctor declined to prescribe tablets. I wish the reason, any risks or contraindications, and the next step had been made clear to us. The NHS says a GP may suggest an alarm or medicine if bedwetting continues and may refer a child to a specialist if treatments do not work. Choice of treatment depends on the person's circumstances and clinical assessment. Medicine is an option to discuss, not something to start without a prescriber.
I would now ask: What causes have been considered? Are there daytime symptoms or constipation? What would make a referral appropriate? If medication is declined, what is the reason and what support or review is offered instead?
Protecting dignity while seeking help
Make access to a toilet and clean bedding easy. Keep the conversation private. Do not punish or shame a young person for wetting the bed; the NHS is clear that it is not their fault. Include the teenager in decisions about what to share with school or other supporters.
If a child continues to wet the bed or starts again after being dry for more than six months, seek GP advice. If you feel a question has not been answered, ask for the reasoning, a review or a referral. Looking Glass Care can help families organise observations and support questions in a free consultation, but medical assessment and prescribing belong with clinicians.
This is my account of my son's experience. His identity is protected; general information checked 27 September 2026.
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